Maybe someone betrayed you. Manipulated you. Lied. Cheated. Insulted.
Whatever the flavor, someone hurt you and now there’s a surging flood of anger in your veins. You. Want. Revenge.
The “R” Word
When we fill wronged by someone, we want justice. We want them to feel what they made you feel. We want them to pay for their mistreatment and misdeeds.
But when we hunger for revenge, do we really know what we are asking for?
The word revenge comes with that nifty little prefix at the front: RE
re: back or again
Then there’s that solid root word in revenge: VENGE— a Latin word:
venge: protect, avenge, punish
Did You Hear Yourself?
Do you know what you are asking for with revenge? (GIPHY)
So, when you ask the Universe for revenge, you are essentially asking to experience punishment or a sense of vengeance again.
Think of revenge as a wound you keep picking: it’s only going to grow more irritated and bloody with time.
Now what about this idea of venge meaning protection? Are you really protecting yourself when you are punishing someone else? The fact that you are doing so “again” sounds downright exhausting.
The Cat and Mouse Game
I get it: you’re hurt. Angry. Hungry for justice. But we’ve already established that revenge — the idea of punishing someone else — will only inflict more pain back onto you.
Revenge is a cat and mouse game. You are the mouse. When you seek vengeance, you are only making the cat claw at you more.
The only way to end the cat and mouse game: to play dead. To surrender to the injustice, cruelty, mistreatment, and any other terrible behavior of the someone who has hurt you.
When we surrender to the what is of someone’s awful behavior, we are no longer dependent on them for peace.
Make no mistake: abuse of any kind is unacceptable. I am not saying: Allow this person who hurt you to keep hurting you. On the contrary, I’m saying:
Live your life. Focus on things and people that bring you genuine pleasure and happiness.
The cat only has power if you allow it to. Each time you get into the ring with the cat, the game will only continue.
Get out of the ring. Play dead.
Then you can enjoy your life. And what a beautiful life it is. The sweetest revenge is living your best life, filling it with appreciation for even the smallest of things: the sound of birds outside a window, the air you fill your lungs with.
When we let go of the need to justify our anger, life’s sweetness returns.
And when you feel angry, let it out to people you trust.
Don’t go seeking understanding from the source of your pain.
This life can be amazing and awful. It’s up to you how you choose to perceive it. How sweet is that?
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3 thoughts on “Looking for Sweet Revenge?”
I’ve been browsing, Sheri. Love what I’ve read. Thanks. Also checked out your book. What a wonderful book recommendation and I know exactly where I’ll take it. Again, xoxo so happy to have found this.
You are full of insight: “When we let go of the need to justify our anger, life’s sweetness returns.”
How?: By using a monkey and a bunch of fun food analogies, of course!
And funny too. I will share. Be well. Happy October. My fave month.
And since it’s my birthday month: I wish you miracles!!!
Oh wow! Thank you sweet Selma! Your words bring a big smile to my face:-) I’m thrilled to know you are enjoying The Friendship Diet as well.
Happy October and HAPPY BIRTHDAY,Selma! Wishing you miracles as well, good health and inner peace. xo Sheri
Your sweetness shows.